Testimonials

(no bribery or arm twisting, I promise)

Andrea

This class was like having a secret handbook to boundaries downloaded directly into my brain. I cannot possibly thank you enough.

Thorn & Blossom has been wonderful for me, the content has helped me navigate some life decisions and interactions, especially through a period of transition and loss. It's helped me feel validated and has given me permission to be myself--which is something I can't believe I lost along the way, but is an invaluable part of the human experience! In a few weeks I've learned to have more agency over my own life via no's and yes's, and that I can design my own reality, and that is an awesome feeling.

Gloria Arminio

Tamara M

I’ve always had difficulty saying no in normal every day situations. I could say no to the big scary ones, but ask me to go for coffee when I don’t want to and I’d cave every time. I took this class to learn how to say no, but I took away so much more than that. I learned how to feel ‘no’ in my body and feel comfortable saying it and sticking with it when I need to. I learned how to compromise without compromising my integrity. Most importantly I learned how to say yes. I never realized how intertwined yes and no are, but once I learned to trust and honour my ‘no’, I could finally begin to feel and honour my ‘yes’, and I am having so much fun with yes!

You know how you are often led to something at exactly the right moment ... and this new place has familiar pieces but it’s like they speak to different parts of you and open up these beautiful drawers right in the middle of your chest? That’s what Rebecca and her work has taught me, especially Thorn and Blossom. Being able to fully see and receive myself with magic, forgiveness and release has been something of a relief and a gift. I used to think humans were onions and our job was to keep wrenching back the layers (with each one getting a bit stronger and stinkier) until we were left with nothing... now I can honestly look at my whole being with a peace and acceptance and how each layer makes up the whole and without them all I couldn’t be my whole self. It’s pretty astounding that I’ve done so much personal work, recovery work, magical work and they’ve all brought me right here, to this one imperfect moment that lives in the center of my heart ...and when I’m having a day that feels less connected I have an old familiar and shined up set of tools to play with. Opening myself to myself is the real deal and Rebecca has reminded me that I am the key and the lock and I’ve always been this way.

Tracie J

Andrea B

I previously felt as though establishing strong boundaries (and they were supposed to be strong) was a near impossible task I would most likely never achieve. Since taking Thorn & Blossom I can say with complete certainty that I have begun a beautiful journey of creating and exploring healthy and fluid boundaries. I now feel confident and curious playing with and developing my ability to say 'no' and 'yes' by staying true to myself. This is all thanks to the expansive yet gentle lessons, wisdoms and tools shared by Rebecca. Her course has helped guide me back to myself. Many of my daily interactions with people have become moments of self-awareness and opportunities to express my desires and personal truths. What has surprised me most is how much joy and deep satisfaction I felt by the end of the course and as I continue to get to know and trust myself again- all while becoming reacquainted with my wants (regardless of whether I achieve them or even decide to pursue them). I am starting to see the true shape and colour of my heart.

For me, all the other boundaries info I've seen and courses I've taken have been about the no, the impenetrable fortress of safety. And that's a good first step, and feels necessary for me to have learned and practiced. But I don't actually feel safe inside of it. It makes me feel immobile, fossilized, trapped within a story of my own making. The story told me that if I acted in ways that would take me outside of the fortress, I would crumble from the onslaught of things Out There that I'd needed to protect myself from in the first place, along with the crumbling of the fortress walls that I would have to completely remake. But with Thorn and Blossom, the process is one of curiosity, and of softening those fortress walls into something more like a blaze on a hiking trail indicating you've reached a new trail, or a gate at the boundary between two fields. Now boundaries feel more like information I can use like sign posts for myself to respond to however I want to in the moment, rather than not trusting myself to make "the right" decision, which is what keeps us behind the fortress in the first place.

Caitlin M

Ida

“What boundary with my family is fair?” is a question that I felt so much when I was just seeing bumper sticker / instagram style “Boundaries are important!” and “Saying no is so liberating!” I was like… cool, yes, that sounds nice but like… how do I know where to draw the boundary and when to change it? Where does that come from?

“What boundary with my family is fair?” was asked in desperation, like tell me how to live my life so that I can feel less put upon but also still be a good, kind person. I think [Thorn & Blossom] redirects that question to the heart space. There are no rules. It’s building capacity to play with where you draw boundaries, with a lot of compassion for yourself and others while you do so (and you’ll always be doing it; it’s never really over, except maybe some really firm boundaries around folks in your life that cause harm).